The art of speaking
By Lin Yutang
Publishing House: Shaanxi Normal University Press
Category:self-knowledge/ Interpersonal communication
Content introduction:
Chinese people's attitude toward speaking, the highest is forgetting words, but like Zen“教”人“Hang your mouth on the wall”I can't help talking。The second is to speak cautiously, taciturn, slow to speak。These three things are different: careful speech is careful speaking, careful speaking naturally speaks less, speaks less and makes fewer mistakes;Taciturn is a lack of speech, a deep or chaste character or virtue;To be slow in speaking is to be unable to speak, which is a kind of character or virtue of being honest。Both of these are mostly generated。The third is rhetoric or rhetoric。The most sincere gentleman, the strength of personality sees through all the darkness;He did not need to talk much, nor did he need to polish his words。Only know to pay attention to the decoration, the mouth is brilliant, the contradiction in the abdomen is sudden, that is the so-called villain;He's so good at grooming, it's hard to believe。His tricks were bound to be revealed one day。We are ordinary people who come between the two;Without the great courage, but also not to forget themselves。Just can not ignore the world, we look at the time, look at the place, look at the person under the two conditions of politeness and interest, modify our speech。There is no power here, only wit;True force is not something that can be embellished。
Now some people advocate“A word used by farmers and workers”;Because it's not familiar. What else。There is no telling whether the people of the new Age have something to study or think they need not。Anyway, I'm only going to talk about ourselves:
To speak skillfully, to speak little;
“Too much talk is too little”，“Too many words will lead to failure”。
About the author:
Lin Yutang1895．10．3-1976．3．26People from Longxi, Fujian。Originally He music, after the change of Yu Tang, and changed the language hall。1912He graduated from St. John's University in Shanghai and taught at Tsinghua University。1919He went to the Department of Literature of Harvard University in the United States。1922He received a Master of Arts degree。In the same year, he went to Germany to study linguistics at the University of Leipzig。1923After receiving his doctorate, he returned to China and became a professor at Peking University, Dean and head of the English Department at Beijing Women's Normal University。1924Later, he was one of the main writers of "Threads"。1926He was appointed Dean of Literature at Xiamen University。1927Secretary of the Ministry of Foreign Affairs。1932Editor-in-chief of "Analects of Confucius" semi-monthly。1934Founded "Earthly World",1935Founded "Cosmic Wind", advocating“Self-centered, with leisure as the norm”The essay。1935Later, in the United States, he wrote cultural works and novels in English, such as "My Country and My People," "Beijing Clouds," and "A Nervous Heart.。
1944He once returned to China to give lectures in Chongqing。1945He went to Singapore to establish Nanyang University and served as its president。1952He co-founded the magazine "Sky Wind" in the United States。1966Settled in Taiwan。1967He was appointed Research Professor at the Chinese University of Hong Kong。1975He was elected Vice President of PEN International。1976He died in Hong Kong。
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目 录:
Speak in order
Part 1 How to Talk
Chapter 1 Talking is a difficult thing
One day talking doesn't make one speak
Speaking is not easier than writing
A long face is not good but a smile is not good
4. Be good to yourself
Speak with your eyes open
Understand the basic characteristics of speaking
Chapter Two: Making a Good Impression
This is a true statement
Two words will lead to faith
Look carefully at each other
The fourth attitude should be gentle and elegant
5. Speak with humor
Speak tactfully
Give people a chance to talk
It's better to let others talk first
Chapter Three Agrees with others' claims
Everyone defends himself for his dignity
He who likes to argue is a fool
It is no good criticizing others
It does no good to reprimand others
A cold face is useless
6 This is not flattery
Chapter Four: Have your own stand
How to refuse a rude request
Two words are useless
Three use different ways to repeat the statement
Make people have the value of memory
5. Learn to Use Rejection language
Chapter 5: Develop other people's phones
Use a compliment
Second, use the method of questioning
Three sincere concern about other people's talk
Four to his heart's content
Chapter 6 How to Argue with Others
Do not let others have one in their hearts‘不”字，
Two do not attack other people's shortcomings
Three sentences should be strong
4. Present real evidence
Find a common ground to discuss
A frontal argument is better than a lateral attack
Seven Have confidence
Eight ways to justify
Chapter 7 How to Speak Remonstrate
Praise first and persuade later
No one likes to listen to orders
Three to give others to save some face
4. Burden yourself with mistakes
5. Use encouragement
Six use the method of fierce generals
Seven to prevent people from giving up on themselves
Treat people equally and respect each other
Nine psychological compatibility right medicine
Part 2 How to Give a Speech
The first chapter is the cultivation of courage and confidence
Where there is a will, there is a way
2. Overcome fear
Success comes from practice
Four exercises of will
Chapter 2 How to Prepare for a Speech
How to prepare your speech
Two tips to improve your speaking skills
How do you prepare your speech
Four questions related to the speech
5. Strengthen your memory
Six moments to forget the words of several emergency methods
Topic selection and length of speech
Chapter 3 How to Get the Audience's Attention
Infuse your audience with enthusiasm
Say things that can't be said in a lump in your throat
Third, speak forcefully
4. Flexibly change the tone of the light and slow
Seize the audience's mind
Six voices
The fourth chapter is the content of speech
The main idea should be clear
2. Don't use nouns
Three descriptions should be appropriate
4. Capture the audience's interest
Five is worthy of trust
6. Do not give examples that annoy the audience
Chapter V Posture of speech
Pay attention to your movements
Arouse the curiosity of the audience
Three summary points
Enough is enough
Five ends with several common questions
Twenty Golden Rules for Successful Speaking
